Martin Narey is wrong. #justsaying
Martin Narey is entirely wrong in his belief that…
@emmalangman Not always. Very often children entirely secure with adoptive parents, no sense of loss. Love and permanence what counts.
— Martin Narey (@martinnarey) November 7, 2012
… and that …
@emmalangman @brigid39Entirely agree But the sense of loss often minimal, particularly if neglectful birth parents not romanticised
— Martin Narey (@martinnarey) November 8, 2012
So very very wrong.
Socialisation is what makes being adopted so hard. The socialisation adoptees get IS different, whether it’s politically correct to admit it or not.
Read Verrier and Lifton and Kirschner and Brodzinsky and learn that it’s actually far far harder than you currently believe. No matter how much you want it to be, it’s not “better”, it’s just different.
I have other post in progress, but just wanted to point ^that bit out.
Written by 7rin
Sat, 10 November, 2012 at 8:44 pm
Posted in Reactions
Tagged with Martin Narey, Media Portrayal, Mythology, Socialisation, Stigma, Tweets
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"Adoption Loss is the only trauma in the world where the victims are expected by the whole of society to be grateful" - The Reverend Keith C. Griffith, MBE
Adopted in the UK 
@AdoptedInTheUK ur tweets hurt so much to read as family members of forcefully adopted children cling to the 1 small hope that their children are at least happy,and are not suffering like they are but it is not the case is it…u help remind us we can never stop fighting for our stolen children! peace and love 2 u x
victoria williams
Thu, 15 November, 2012 at 7:14 pm
Martin Narey writes like someone who has not spent much (if any) time talking with but more importantly *listening* to adoptees. His comments concern me, as an adult adoptee age 41. I would hope that something in his message is being lost due to the brevity of twitter. I very much hope this man doesn’t have any power or influence on the adoption system. I also hope he never adopts if this is genuinely where he’s at.
Alli
Alli Inwards
Mon, 15 April, 2013 at 6:17 pm
Sadly, Alli, Sir Martin Narey is the UK Government’s Adoption Advisor, which is why he’s got a tag all to himself. Unfortunately, he’s not inclined to listen to adult adoptees because we are irrelevant now.
7rin
Tue, 16 April, 2013 at 12:17 am