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Surrogates & donor dads

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One of the many options in creating a child these days is that of surrogacy and donor sperm. This option – like adoption – is lauded as a valid and valuable way to “create a family”. Also similar to adoption, the kids that are created in this way are frequently described as gifts – thus negating their status as human beings, and instead consigning their existence to nothing more than a commodity to be handed over to their purchaser/s.

In accordance with adoptees, there are many donor conceived off-spring blogs springing up that echo the losses adoptees face, however, this post is less about those more usually expressed losses, and more to do with something that has been niggling me of late.

One of the posts over at the 7rin-on-adoption repository links to research that confirms the existence of cell migration from the embryo to the gestating carrier. While I don’t have links to research confirming that this happens in the other direction, I strongly suspect (based on my limited knowledge and massive assumptions) that this must happen – otherwise, where does the growing embryo attain its sustenance? Thus, I am concerned that articles exist suggesting that …

Gestational surrogacy is when a woman carries a baby to term for a couple. The gestational surrogate or carrier doesn’t donate her own egg, so she’s not biologically related to the child she carries. Rather, the egg and sperm come from the couple or from a donor egg and/or sperm.

… and that people can be believing this is a truthful synopsis of the situation.

Surely if the gestational carrier and the developing embryo share a symbiotic relationship, then the child that is later born – whether it originated from an egg produced by its carrier or otherwise – does have some genetic relationship with its carrier that is being readily dismissed as unworthy of mention and/or research?

I would appreciate any knowledgeable input on this subject as I admit, it is a subject I know very little about. However, I am concerned that these connections – as with the connections adoptees possess with their genealogical families – are being reduced and mitigated, perhaps in an effort to negate the importance of the nurturing role these carriers bear in order to further exploit women’s reproductive capabilities.

Written by 7rin

Sat, 2 February, 2013 at 4:16 pm

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  1. Reblogged this on The Life Of Von and commented:
    A fascinating and very relevant question concerning ‘the products of gestation’ as Nicole Kidman likes to term it and the relationship to ‘the gestational carrier’ of the child, who is seen as ‘a gift’ and clearly is not given the high costs of surrogacy. The term can only be meant as a commodifier, the purpose of which is to distance the surrogate mother from the child and the expensive transaction undertaken only by those who can afford it and have been able to divorce their decisions and actions from any possible effects on the child and the mother, both immediate and in the future. Whoever the contributors are of egg and sperm, the relationship of foetus to the surrogate mother who births the child must ensure that separation after birth causes trauma and loss issues and damage for the child, as in adoption.
    Were there no relationship between carrier and foetus the pregnancy would not survive, nor would a live birth be the outcome. Anyone with a basic knowledge of biology and mammalian reproduction would understand this. It is to be hoped that we will see more and more explorations of these questions in future – for the sake of the children and their future well-being. Another example of where medical science fails to allow ethics and moral considerations to be uppermost, as they should be.


    Sat, 2 February, 2013 at 5:56 pm

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