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Taking newborns

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I first started this post in reaction to 6th March’s Daily Wail Mail article, social workers arrived at hospital to take woman’s baby while she was in labour.

A mother is demanding an apology from social services after her baby was taken away from her as soon as she was born.

Kelly McWilliams, 36, claims that social workers arrived at her bedside while she was in labour and took her newborn daughter Victoria into foster care.

I’d already posted about this subject before (AMBER ALERT! Missing child snatched!) and wanted to look at it in more depth. However, due to my entire crapness at getting things done, the post has been sat here as one of my many unfinished drafts.

Friday just gone (5th April), there appeared yet another post about a Social Services (Staffordshire, again) snatching (literally) a newborn from its mom. This time, it’s an extremely harrowing video showing the newborn being snatched from its screaming mom’s arms.


Sadly, this is the same family as appeared in my previous reblog where the SWers were waiting in the delivery suite for the mom to give birth so they could take the baby away from its mom straight away.

While I, like all the other adoptee advocates I know who’re campaigning for changes to the Institution of Adoption, realise there are people out there who’re harmful to the wellbeing of the children they create, I am absolutely convinced that unless a newborn is in immediate physical danger from its mom, then it should not be removed at birth.

Heck, it’s even advised that puppies are kept with their moms for up to the first eight weeks, or else there is a greater risk of separation anxiety, yet Social Services (and especially Staffordshire) – despite all the evidence of the need of babies for THEIR OWN mothers – in their accumulated ‘wisdom’ are happy to wade in and disrupt those very important early weeks.

SWers cite “concerns” for the baby’s welfare for actions such as this, yet unless those “concerns” are that the mom will be an IMMEDIATE threat to the baby’s physical safety, these SWers are acting contrary to scietific research that demonstrates why newborns should NOT be removed from their mother.

I’d already done the following research when I first started this post, and so because I’ve got to go out, and because I want to get this done in time for inclusion in this week’s #WASO hosted by The Boy’s Behaviour, I’m leaving you with the list of posts that I’d already filtered through that relate to those important first weeks in which yes, even people NEED THEIR OWN moms UNLESS that mom is going to be an immediate physical danger to the kid.

The First Hour Following Birth: Don’t Wake the Mother!

The First Hour After Birth: A Baby’s 9 Instinctive Stages

Care Practice #6: No Separation of Mother and Baby, With Unlimited Opportunities for Breastfeeding

Ms McWilliams, from Scawthorpe, Doncaster, says that she was separated from her baby for three months and allowed to see her for only six hours a week under close supervision until a court ordered that Victoria should be returned to her mother.

The Fourth Trimester – AKA: Why Your Newborn is Only Happy in Your Arms

Developmental milestones: Separation and independence

Attachment And Separation: What Everyone Should Know

Margaret Mahler and Separation-Individuation Theory

The Mother-Baby Bond @ Scientific American

Pre and Peri-Natal Psychology: An Introduction Part 1 by Thomas R. Verny MD, D.Psych, DHL, FRCPC
http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum/index.php?topic=31192

Found some videos by Dr. Thomas Verny on prenatal and perinatal psychology. I found them very interesting. It’s too bad this stuff isn’t common knowledge.

Part 1: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kJBO0C1iYp8
Part 2: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUb_5F12V6A



UPDATE: 12 April

There’s been another video released; Father Of Snatched Baby Speaks Out

Paul Roberts and his wife Asha had their one day old baby taken last week by Staffordshire Social Services personnel assisted by the police. He spoke to Brian Gerrish about the circumstances on today’s UK Column Live.

ARTICLE | APRIL 11, 2013 – 5:23PM



UPDATE: 06 September

In an effort to protect their own villainous behaviour, Staffordshire SS attempted to get the first video in this post banned. Thankfully, as reported in the much maligned Daily Fail, I mean Wail, um Mail, sensibility has prevailed, and it’s now no longer banned.

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Written by 7rin

Sun, 7 April, 2013 at 3:30 pm

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  1. Thanks for highlighting this, and providing so much more further reading. I’m really interested to read some of this research.
    And thanks for linking up with the Weekly Adoption Shout Out x

    Stix

    Sun, 7 April, 2013 at 7:34 pm

    • I’m just happy that #WASO’s willing to have voices like mine participating – not all do because the stuff I show isn’t the rainbow-farting unicorn side of things. Not many people can tolerate brutal honesty very well. :s

      As for highlighting, I only wish it wasn’t necessary. While I realise that taking children from their parents is never going to be “easy”, I do think that this kind of stage is doing more damage than it’s solving.

      I am happy with the stuff I dug out to highlight the “fourth trimester” though, which is a phrase I’d never come across before, but it makes sense. :}

      7rin

      Mon, 8 April, 2013 at 12:15 am

  2. Brutal honesty is necessary to get to the truth sometimes. While we now know so much more about babies and mothers following birth, tragically there are some who cannot be together for the safety of the babies.Unfortunately for the sake of truth,but to protect the mother and the real reasons, SSD are unable to give their full side of the story or their full reasons for having to remove a baby at birth. Confidentiality prevents the public knowing the full story.
    Great info!

    eagoodlife

    Mon, 8 April, 2013 at 12:39 am

  3. Reblogged this on The Life Of Von and commented:
    Reposting this excellent post and all it’s useful links which include this quote – “It would take volumes to present a comprehensive study of the characteristics of a great number of cultures in relation to how they challenge the maternal protective instinct during the sensitive period following birth. However a simple conclusion can be drawn from a rapid overview of the data we have at our disposal: The greater the social need for aggression and an ability to destroy life, the more intrusive the rituals and beliefs are in the period surrounding birth”

    eagoodlife

    Mon, 8 April, 2013 at 12:50 am

  4. This was very difficult to watch. A baby in the mother’s womb should automatically mean the mother (& father who helped create the baby) has custody. Very Sad.

    Jenette Yamamoto

    Mon, 8 April, 2013 at 3:47 am

  5. The video is very hard to watch and I am absolutely certain that you and the research you provide is correct, that no child should be without it’s mother from birth without the child being under immediate threat. Some situations are hard to understand without full information being provided but none the less the sadness of removing a child at birth is immense.

    Thank you for sharing this with The Weekly Adoption Shout Out

    thepuffindiaries

    Tue, 9 April, 2013 at 9:54 pm

    • There’s never going to be a “good” time to take a child (I went at seven months, right in the switch-over phase to ‘self’), but I truly believe that at birth (insert obvious disclaimers about ‘cept in genuine immediate physical threat) is not just the wrong time, but also the cruellest and most barbaric time to deprive a child of its own mom. If a kid’s being removed, then disclaimers aside, the ‘care’ (however limited it might be) should at most be dissolved slowly, integrating families similarly to how Rebecca described over at Love is not a pie rather than severing as is done as often as seemingly possible now.

      7rin

      Wed, 10 April, 2013 at 12:47 am

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