Reposting for posterity, because I think the links are so very much worthy. :)
[7rin] loves being on the Answer hidden due to its low rating list so hilariously often, and with such fantastically good company. :D
The question the base link in the post pointed at is: “So what exactly is my alternative to adoption in my situation?” over @ http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100824044336AA5ZbRu
Answer of the century award goes to Tish however, for her reply on the What makes someone a mother? question asked over @ http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100823193059AAxG6Px
Sunny posted, asking:
What makes someone a mother?
Another poster on Y!A said this:
“The act of pushing out a baby does not make someone a mother.”
So what does?
tish_part deux‘s reply:
so…since the act of pushing out a baby doesn’t make one a mother, why the need for non-pushers to be on BIRTH certificates?
speaking of “birthing” these are the same folk who believe ALL BABIES have two mommy’s: a birthmother and a “real” forever family mother…
the idea that some mothers actually can become such without the use of another woman’s womb, is lost on some of these folks.
also, since the act of pushing out a baby is so diminished in the continuum of “mothering” they why do people spend gazillions of dollars to get knocked up in a lab, just to “push out a baby.”
personally, i have always thought that the “pushing out a baby doesn’t…’ banter was most often rhetoric from those who CAN’T PUSH…
i also find that those who can’t push, try to shift the “mother” definition to control for the ONLY variable which excludes them: the ability to conceive, gestated, and give birth to the child they are “mothering..”
so, i’ll try this:
a mother is one who:
conceived a child
gestated a child
birthed a child
nursed/nurtured a child
raised a child
loved a child
3/6==good enough, mom
2/6==try much harder, mom
1/6==give it up, mom
SUPERMOM who conceived, gestated, pushed, nursed, and raised my own children.
i’ll take my super mother prize in gift cards to nieman marcus…